“Your success depends mainly on what you think of yourself and whether you believe in yourself ” William J. H. Boetcker
Our relationships, abilities and possibilities are influenced by our beliefs about them. These beliefs can be empowering but amongst them we all have some limiting beliefs and thoughts.
These are the powerful thoughts that limit action, that stop you moving forward. Some are as a result of social conditioning, often from childhood and act as your very own filter of reality, affecting how you see and experience the world. These limiting or negative beliefs are also invisible. They hold you back from achieving your true potential.
As the owner of these thoughts and beliefs you can choose to get rid of them. You can do this through raising your awareness and prove them false. Sometimes described as stinking thinking, here are some examples.
All the wrong people get promoted
It’s a waste of time
I don’t have enough experience
It’s not a fair process
There’s no point in me applying
I’m too old
Others have a better chance than me
I’m not good enough
I’m too young
I don’t have the time
There are no opportunities
You can identify and acknowledge your self-limiting or negative beliefs. Being completely honest with yourself is a starting point. Everyone has them. At least one!
Write them down. Make them visible.
Out In The Open
“Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will” Zig Ziglar
Once they are out in the open, one way of dealing with these thoughts is to reframe them. Reframing is a technique for altering negative or self-defeating thought patterns by deliberately replacing them with positive conscious self-talk. It’s about changing your perception and generating new options.
For example: “I don’t have enough time” when reframed becomes “I prioritise things that are important to me”.
Here are some more:
A Thinking Partner
“Our thoughts are shaped by our assumptions and sometimes those assumptions are just plain wrong” Cara Stein
Coaches are sometimes described as a thinking partner. Supporting and respectfully challenging the thinking of individuals who aspire to promotion is something that I love doing.
Identifying stinking thinking and then reframing it helps with getting the approach right going forward. It’s a valuable tactic and one that can help build confidence.
I hear lots of aspiring promotion candidates using the term ‘if I’m successful” when talking about opportunities ahead. That’s some stinking thinking right there! It’s a subconscious barrier. It reflects inner doubt, lack of self-belief and can prevent you from presenting the best version of yourself during a promotion selection process.
Reframing can be a powerful enabler. Here’s a brief insight from Steve, a Detective Sergeant, prior to successfully achieving his goal of promotion to Inspector:
“The positive mind set you kept me in was very good for me…You often corrected me from saying ‘if’ I pass to ‘when’ I pass, which had an impact psychologically on my preparation and actually made me feel you were keeping me on track. Compared to a previous unsuccessful interview, I felt completely different and more relaxed. Where I was unsure… a quick chat put me back in the positive thinking area again. There were a few times you did that”
Reframing “if” (stinking thinking) to “when” (positive thinking) helps tremendously in visualising a successful outcome. As Henry Ford puts it:
“If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right”
Finally, if you are preparing ahead and would like something to trigger and support your thinking, here’s a FREE 50 page downloadable guide: ‘7 Things Promotion Boards Also Look For’